In Laufey’s song “Let You Break My Heart Again” they say “pretend that we are more than friends, then, of course, I’ll let you break my heart again I’m just tryna understand what I am to you”. This is exactly what breadcrumbing feels like pretending that he/she loves you more than that but only for you to end you hurting.
Understanding What Breadcrumbing Is
Breadcrumbing happens when someone gives you just enough attention to keep you interested but never actually wants a real relationship with you. They string you along, making you feel special when it’s convenient for them.
Why People Do Breadcrumbing
- Boosting the Ego: They like knowing someone is interested in them, which makes them feel good about themselves
- Fear of Being Alone: They don’t want to be alone, so they keep you around as a BACK-UP.
- Fear of Commitment: They may have past experiences or childhood issues that make them afraid of serious relationships.
How to Know If You’re Being Breadcrumbed
Nowadays, it can be hard to spot if you’re being breadcrumbed or just being a delulu. So, here are ways to know if what you’re having are just tidbits and crumbs, and not the whole deal:
- Inconsistency: They text you sometimes and ignore you at other times.
- No Real Plans: They never follow through on plans you make together.
- Superficial Conversations: They don’t share much about their life or feelings
- Disappearing Acts: They show up just when you start to move on, giving you just enough attention to keep you hooked
People who breadcrumb often have issues with commitment and may prefer to leave rather than risk being left. It’s important to recognize these signs and protect your heart from getting hurt.
